Responsible for everything from physical attraction to orgasm intensity, the brain is undoubtedly your most important sexual organ. While many people buy in to the notion that a man “thinks with his penis,” naturally valuing and desiring sex far more than women, accumulating evidence suggests that there is no such thing as a male versus female brain and that female sex drive is just as fierce and capable, if not more, than men’s.
“You can’t pick up a brain and say ‘that’s a girl’s brain, or that’s a boy’s brain’ in the same way you can with the skeleton,” Gina Rippon, a professor and researcher with Aston University in Birmingham, England, told the Telegraph in March, 2014.
Men and women do differ sexually in numerous ways physically, but varied levels of sexual excitement and other emotional factors seem to have more to do with environmental and cultural factors than genetics.
So how do you ensure that your brain works synergistically with your body’s wants and needs? A little knowledge and exploration can go a long way.
Women and men may have equal desire for sex, but women are more likely to put up subconscious barriers. “A woman might begin lovemaking relatively uninterested,” writes Sheryl A. Kingsberg, Ph.d, a clinical psychologist and associate professor of reproductive biology and psychiatry in Cleveland, Ohio, “doing it because she wants to please her partner or because it makes her feel good about herself.” In other words, boosting your self-confidence can make sex more appealing and prioritizing sex can boost your confidence, making for a gratifying win-win. If your sense of self-worth is in the dumpster, addressing it in and outside of the bedroom is also important for your overall health.
Archives of Sexual Behavior; Agreement of Self-Reported and Genital Measures of Sexual Arousal in Men and Women: A Meta-Analysis
Telegraph; Men and Women Do Not Have Different Brains
Women’s Health Magazine; What Happens in Your Brain During a Female Orgasm
Cosmopolitan; Foreplay: What Men Like
HealthWomen.org: Brain and Sex
Concordia University; Boosting Self-Esteem Prevents Health Problems for Seniors
Mayo Clinic: Low Sex Drive in Women
Men’s Journal; Are You Watching Too Much Porn?
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